A couple of people have been circulating an article about how women aren't crazy on facebook for interacting and communicating the way some women do. It's an open letter of sorts from a feminist man. I haven't had the opportunity to read the entire thing, and once I do maybe I will post it, but it started me thinking.
As a counseling student I was once confronted by a theory that suggested people distance themselves from emotionality to make more "rational" decisions. I admit that sometimes it's hard to surpress an anxious-like- fire that wells up in me when I feel I have a point that is not being heard, especially as it pertains to the experience of women, people of color, and poor people. I actively try to challenge myself to be open, to stay present and engaged enough to pay attention to not only my next point, but the points of the other person(s). I disagree however that rationality is superior to emotionality, that arguments have to follow a certain set of rules.
Not everyone speaks the same way, thinks the same way. I have a lot of growing to do in terms of better communicating my thoughts and ideas in the heat of contention, but I don't think being emotionally charged necessarily means one is more difficult to understand.